[33girl]

Dog Chow.

Seriously, I know you don't like drama, but this is asinine. Just tell them "we won't be making any special meals for the kids. If this isn't OK with you or them, get them a sitter, or just don't come."

I was a picky as hell eater as a kid, but at age TEN I could certainly find things when I went to someone else's house for dinner that I could eat. I also got far more wide ranging tastes when I got older (esp after I went to college) so anyone worrying about kids not eating this or that, trust me, it won't kill them. I have a far more wide-ranging variety of foods I like than many of my friends or family.