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Originally Posted by Drolefille

Your combination of the "lesbo" comment and the "she's a man" one implied that you might have difficulty with the concept.
I dont.
The concept of looking gay is funny to you but you believe it? You laugh at your own jokes a lot?
I laugh when the mood strikes me. The concept of looking gay does amuse me from time to time for reasons I didnt list here.
So masculine gay males and feminine lesbian women don't exist? Or they're just not fitting the "funny" sterotype in your head? It's not funny to me because it's outright wrong.
I never said anyhting of the like. It'd just be much more difficult to equate them with being gay than it would with someone who is male and very feminine or female and very masculine. If I were playing guess the sexuality (I guess Im the only one who sees the humor in actually playing the game as it relates to the nom of a potential SCOTUS) I'd go with lesbo. Its just my guess. Doesnt make her gay or not.


Your argument is the sexist equivalent of "You have a problem because you see the racism in what I'm saying, not because I'm saying something racist."
Its simply not sexisist to say that she looks gay to me and if we're placing bets on her sexuality im going with gay. I could see if I said she's gay because she's ugly or 50 and single or childless. I think she appears gay because she has many similarities to gay women I've experienced in her age group, gender, and race now that I think about it.
I'm complaining about the use of "gay" or go help us "Lesbo" (SERIOUSLY?) because it is being used AS a slur. That is wrong. So is assuming you know someone's sexual orientation based on their looks.
Also, women can buy into sexism, gay people can buy into heterosexism, and so on. Either you're doing it intentionally or you're unaware, either way it's still coming from your fingers.
Um, I definitely didnt use either gay or lesbo as a slur. Are they slurs now because I definitely didnt get the memo? I know homosexual is the PC term, but I've never viewed gay or lesbo as a slur. I never claimed to know. Im just saying that given just her looks and mannerisms etc. I'd vote gay. It saw RuPaul for the first time and thought he looked gay. I thought Ricky Martin and Clay Aiken looked gay (turned out they were. *gasp* shocking lol.) Maybe There's a new definition of sexism but Im not saying she's less than or not equal to a man because she's a woman nor am I saying she should be at home tending to her husband. Im saying she looks gay to me. Her social role and her sexuality arent the same thing.


No one 'looks gay' unless they're making out with someone of the same sex right in front of you. That's looking gay.
Thats gay. lol.


the only thing "gay" about a "gay lifestyle" is the "loving/engaging in sexual acts with someone of the same sex." Everything else is "a lifestyle." So, you believe that people who are gay can choose to be celibate, not "choose not to live a gay lifestyle." I don't think that should be forced or expected of anyone who doesn't freely choose it.

I meant what I said. To say that gay people can choose to be celibate imo is to trivialize gay relationships as they are about more than sex. I believe that gay people can choose not to practice a gay lifestyle (ie: not date same sex, have relationships, or have sex) and that choice is different than the choice to actually be attracted to the same sex.