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Originally Posted by GTAlphaPhi
I've always wondered, especially with the rise of same-sex marriages, how to deal with last names? While I know many same-sex spouses (gay and lesbian), all of them kept their own names.
Are any of you part of or know of same-sex marriages where one took the other's name, or somehow combined it? How do you/they decide who's name will be the family name? Since it's same-sex, there isn't the "man's-name-is-the-family-name" tradition because either they're both men, or in the case of a lesbian marriage, no men.
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Most of my gay and lesbian friends have kept their own names. One couple combined their names into something new. They both had very simple last names and they combined beautifully.
I kept my name when I got married. I don't care if you call me Mrs. HisName. If we ever have kids, they will take his last name, but we might give them my name as their middle names. My mom, on the other hand, is horrified. When my grandmother passed away, she included the grandchildrens' names. I read the paper and laugh out loud when I see....Pinky MaidenName-HisName. She said that she told the funeral director I have such a wonderful husband and that it is ridiculous that I didn't change my name.
We have friends who both changed their names to Karen MaidenName HisName and Tom HerMaidenName HisName. Her maiden name is both of their middle names now (and their kids too). When we sent our save the dates, hubby sent them to Mr. and Mrs. Tom HisName. Well, Karen got hubby's ear and chewed him up...don't you think I exist...aren't we friends...etc.etc. When it came time to send the invitations, hubby addressed it, Ms Karen HerName and Guest. LOL. He is such a smart a$$.