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Originally Posted by deepimpact2
The thing is people seem to forget that there are many Black families out there that wish to adopt.
And also, while agencies will often let white couples adopt Black children, it is rare that they allow Black families to adopt White children.
I personally don't much care for white couples adopting Black children because I do feel that there are culture issues. But I feel that way in general. Prime example was one of my former students who was Navajo. She was adopted by a white woman when she was 3. She is now 19 and she knows absolutely NOTHING about Navajo traditions and culture. NOTHING. It broke my heart to see that because I felt that while she got a good home, she was still being robbed of the opportunity to explore her heritage. Her mother's excuse was that she didn't know anything about the Navajo culture and so she figured that the child would just be okay without knowing it.
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In many ways I agree with you, IF there is a choice between an equally qualified black and white couple, the black child should go to the black couple. If there is a plethora of black families looking to adopt black children, then why are there so many older black children looking for homes? Or is it that no one wants an older child no matter what color? Is being raised in a white family with no inkling of black heritage (which is easier for the average white persona to bumble through than Navejo culture, BTW...also, might I add that many Navejo have lost their culture while living in their own reservations!) than to be raised in a system of foster homes?
I have a really good friend who is Vietnamese and was raised along with her adopted brother, who is mixed white/black, by a white family. She has NO Vietnamese culture and no interest. She is highly educated, and if you try to tell her that she should have an interest, she would tell you that it's not your business. Her Vietnamese parents gave her up for adoption. Her white parents gave her a life. She isn't without her problems (not because of her lack of Vietnamese culture but because of other family issues that would be there if she had been their natural child.)
The sad thing about Russia is that THEY don't want to adopt those children. Less than 300 children are adopted within the country each year! That is pitiful. If American adoptions stop, all these children will just stay in horrible orphanages for longer periods of time.