[AOII Angel]

I agree with what y'all have said about the joint/separate accounts. For a lot of couples, one or both spouses will or can't make themselves see that the wants/needs of the other spouse are as important as their own. I have good friends like this, and they have to keep completely separate accounts because the husband is a complete jerk about money. My husband and I look at them and think it's really sad that they fight over such superficial things, but then again, every couple has their issues. My husband and I just both happen to be pretty free spenders. When we're running low, my husband gives me a gentle warning, but he wouldn't dream of making me beg for a pair of shoes I wanted! :O