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Originally Posted by LadySunshine
I love the discussion here and some of the stories have been very touching. Though I would want my fiance to ask my parent's or spiritual guardian (if my parents were unavailable) for permission to marry me I completely understand and respect where someone else may be turned off by that gesture.
One interesting thing I saw repeated a lot was that people would feel strange if others knew about a proposal before they did. How much discussion do people have about an upcoming proposal before the guy proposes? Are people completely shocked because it was never discussed? Do some have an ideal but never really have a concrete conversation or do others fully expect it and have had a conversation beforehand and are just waiting for the actually proposal? I would love to hear the experiences and thoughts around how much a proposal is discussed and known beforehand.
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I was wondering the same thing. I think my husband and I talked about it several times before we actually got engaged which was several months before I actually got a ring (which I picked out myself.) I'm not a romantic so having my husband "surprise" me with a ring I might not like just isn't me. My husband's romantic engagement gesture was to take me to Disney World as a Christmas present then ask me to marry him officially on that trip. Was it a surprise? Obviously not. We knew almost immediately once we'd started dating that we had something special and could see ourselves getting married, so we never played ANY of those dating games.