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Originally Posted by MMSe
Well, they didn't offer me a bid, the president and vice president invited me to their first invite-only night, which I stupidly turned down to attend the other fraternity's. Later that night, I sent them an email saying how sorry I was that I missed it and if I could meet any other brothers I that I'd really appreciate it.
Then the next day, about 3 hours before the second invite-only night, I met with the recruitment chair and about 4-5 other brothers, and we talked for about 30 minutes, and THEN they called me later that night saying they couldn't invite me to the final invite only night. That's when they also told me to rush in the Spring and that "we can hang out sometime".
So I would hope that turning down an invite-only night (I don't know if other schools have them?) is less severe than turning down a bid, ESPECIALLY if I showed continued interest after turning down the initial bid.
Please let me know.
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If someone told me they turned down our invite-only night to go to another group's night, it would stick with me. The entire chapter most likely knows you turned down their invite. That being said, you said they hung out with you for a short amount of time and told you to hang out and rush in the spring.
Things change in a semester, if you're not hanging out with them already or getting calls about stuff, chances are they're not focusing their effort on you. So either they're expecting you to do a lot of the work with contacting them or (most likely) they aren't that interested in you. Currently, my group has PNMs that we are actively contacting already in order to prepare for Spring Rush. Granted I don't know your school or campus climate, so it might operate differently for you.
It doesn't hurt to call the group, but if they don't call you or keep you in the loop about the spring, they probably don't want you.