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Originally Posted by Titchou
Oh gosh, we had this mother at one of our chapters! The daughter, very sweet but very intimidated by her mother, was a legacy and we pledged her. The mother, who lived 4 hours away, rented herself an apartment in the college town for the entire 4 years the daughter was in school. During the 2 years the daughter was supposed to live in the house, the mother wouldn't let her, had her live in the apartment with her and paid the room rent and board at the house too!
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I cannot begin to describe how utterly pathetic this is on the mother's part. I wish you were making this up, too, but I know you can't be. I've got a friend who's definitely a helicopter mom with her 21-year-old daughter. After kvetching to me repeatedly and sometimes asking for advice that she never once really listened to, I finally told my friend not to discuss her "parenting" methods with me, because not only do I not agree with her running her daughter's life, but I also don't want to hear about it. We have found other things to talk about, and our conversations cause me much less stress now.
I know that sounds horrible, but I've been polite, I've been nice, and I've been blunt to the point of borderline rudeness when she repeatedly griped or asked about the same things, and she continues to behave the same way. The daughter is 21, and her life is in her hands- she can decide to stand up and run it herself, or to continue to allow her mother to take everything over.
I really hope ellebud's friend gets her head out of her butt, but if she doesn't, maybe the daughter will get her head out of the mother's butt. (I know, what a visual, but y'all get the idea.)