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Originally Posted by Spinderella
Been away for quite a long time, living life and doing me but.....
Precious Diva 88, here is my very humble opinion. I too was a 'hopeful' and didn't make grad chapter. I am married with 2 kids. Trust when I say, the lifelong commitment of being a member should never conflict with your priority to take care of your child.
I ask you, first, who is caring for your child when you are at all these events trying to make yourself known?
Second, if you are granted this wish, who will care for your child when you are in the process?
Third, who will keep your child if you become a neophyte and are busy running around to your committee meetings and all? As an outsider looking in, a committed member COULD be out of the home in the evenings atleast 2-3 times a week before AND after becoming a member.
In the chapters in MY neck of the woods, providing childcare for members, who are working in the name of Delta, has definitely not seemed to be a priority.
If it is sisterhood you are craving, like most mommies do, reconnect with other mother-friends and make yourself content. Being away from your son during his formative years, is not worth the sacrifice. I have witnessed women who left thier kids home alone to go off and handle business for the organization, and no one ever seemed to care that these women were mothers. No one ever asked, 'Hey, I know you are single, where are the kids?' All that mattered was accomplishing the business of the chapter.
Delta will have been around for 100 years in 2013. You have made it with out the organization this long AND THEY HAVE MADE IT WITHOUT YOU; consider that you can wait until after your child is out of the house and is self sufficient.
Good Luck and be a mother first.
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As you said, you are on the outside looking in. Many members have children and being active in the sorority does not cause them to neglect their children. Everyone has different schedules and committments so the amount of time that can be devoted to the sorority is different for each individual. There is no set time requirement for members. If you have small children (neo or not), many would not volunteer to run around and be at events 2-3 times a week; the same is true for others that are very busy with other top priorities like starting their own business. Also, there are many ways to contribute to your chapter/sorority that will not cause you to be away from home too often; such as mailing/e-mailing letters or invites, maintaining the chapter website, working on the chapter newsletter, submitting articles to the sorority magazine, calling shut in and elderly sorors, etc. etc. etc.
Of course if you are single and don't have any children or have older children, you will be able to do more but everyone that is truly committed contributes in some way and what they are able to do varies at different times in their lives due to different life changes and events. One does not have to wait until their children are grown and out of the house to join...LOL! Don't we make time for other things, time for ourselves (which mommies definitely need), even though we have children? Working for and enjoying the sorority is fulfilling for many. Many mothers and wives cherish this time and some even consider this a part of their "me" time, which we all need. No one asks anyone to devote all or even most of their time to the sorority; that would be absurd and unrealistic for most. Those who do that are choosing to do that. If members are neglecting their children for the sorority, they should reevaluate their priorities and put them in order. It is absolutely possible to do it all and not neglect anyone or anything in your life that is important.