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Originally Posted by Nacre
My daughter was in this boat. She quit rush this year after her one preference party. She felt like it wasn't right for her.
She has a 3.5 GPA, good activities and was a competitive dancer on a national level. Her down side - she is from out-of-state and doesn't know a single person at Bama. We had a very hard time getting recs.
In April, she went to an LSU Panhellenic tea. She was told the group couldn't write her recs because she was going to an out-of-state school. So we asked friends, teachers and neighbors. (Hours of work!!!) I was told by everyone I asked that it is the Chapter's responsibility to secure recs for the PNMs. I was informed over and over that if a house likes a girl and they don't have a rec of file, during rush they will put the girl in a room to meet an alumna. The alumna will interview the girl and then write a rec. Impression is that this is the best way to get a rec. Most friends and neighbors felt like it was a waste of time to write her one.
I'm a Kappa and this spring's issue of The Key had an article about membership. The article stressed that it is the Kappa's responsibility to secure a reference of a girl. Foolish me, I figured Kappa's philosophy was probably the norm.
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In Louisiana the alums usually do the recs without requests from the girls (at least that's how my DG friends in the town where my family is from gather and do them). Here in AL, they don't much do that. Each woman is on her own. I'm surprised though that the alums there don't know that as we get a lot of LA girls at Bama. You don't say where in LA you are from but there are several alum Panhellenics there that could have helped. I'm sorry you got such bad advice. It is frustrating when you aren't familiar with a campus. Perhaps she'll be able to go thru as an upperclassman....if she's still interested.