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Originally Posted by Nacre

My daughter was in this boat. She quit rush this year after her one preference party. She felt like it wasn't right for her.

In April, she went to an LSU Panhellenic tea. She was told the group couldn't write her recs because she was going to an out-of-state school. So we asked friends, teachers and neighbors. (Hours of work!!!) I was told by everyone I asked that it is the Chapter's responsibility to secure recs for the PNMs. I was informed over and over that if a house likes a girl and they don't have a rec of file, during rush they will put the girl in a room to meet an alumna. The alumna will interview the girl and then write a rec. Impression is that this is the best way to get a rec. Most friends and neighbors felt like it was a waste of time to write her one.

I'm a Kappa and this spring's issue of The Key had an article about membership. The article stressed that it is the Kappa's responsibility to secure a reference of a girl. Foolish me, I figured Kappa's philosophy was probably the norm.

See, and that's unfortunate. Also, that "put in a room with alumnae" scenario sounds a bit farfetched.

Also, I'm not saying that they will NEVER secure a rec for a PNM, but it doesn't happen alot. There are too many PNMs for them to do it.

I'm sorry things didn't work out, but perhaps she should have continued with recruitment and given her one chapter a chance? I mean, she did still have one option...