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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
I think that telling your own sisters that someone is a legacy to another chapter is different, since you wouldn't be writing a recommendation if you didn't think your sisters should seriously consider the pnm. If a recommendation form didn't ask for the information, I would not necessarily offer it.(I don't want to get into membership selection, and fear I might if I went into any more detail.) But, since your form asks for it, UGAalumna, I'd give it.
If I knew the pnm had a strong leaning towards her legacy chapter(s) I would certainly tell, but I would decide on a case by case basis.
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I don't always know, but when I do, I've listed it.
I've come to believe that legacies mean very little unless the sister is currently in the house or has very recently graduated. If I know how little being a legacy seems to matter, I can't believe that the other chapters don't.
I'm not sure that the perception that revealing them is damaging isn't really caused by other unrelated factors: bigger releases with RFM, more legacies being out there as more women have gone to college in the last few generations, grade inflation in high school and "the organization kid"(
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200104/brooks) type become ubiquitous, making it harder for any girl to really seem outstanding. It's hard for girls, their parents, and the alumnae they know to predict what will happen, and it seems to me that more PNM feel entitled to only join the very "top chapters."
I think sometimes people who are unhappy with their immediate outcomes see systematic failure where none may really exist, and we might be projecting that on to legacy status.