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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
And, in my experience, sometimes those same chapter members (the ones who are not discreet) are the same ones who really don't know what they are talking about - they may run around saying "We didn't bid So-n-so because she is black", but 1.) this is a stupid person, so take everything she says with a grain of salt  and 2.) that may have been discussed, but ultimately it comes down to a vote, and no one can say with 100% certainty why their sisters chose to vote the way they did - yet another reason to NEVER DISCUSS MEMBERSHIP SELECTION. |
Would a person who goes around saying that really be stupid or just honest? No offense, but it gets really ridiculous in certain situations when people try to pretend like people really don't know why someone wasn't picked. In many cases it IS racism, but it is that subtle racism that will never actually be acknowledged. In my opinion that is the most dangerous type of racism because there's nothing you can do about it. I would rather deal with the person who is admitting that they turned someone down because of their race than someone who acts all prim and proper and polite while lying through their teeth. And in the case of these types of sororities, they hide behind the membership selection process and often point to other white women who weren't selected as if that really proves anything. No, all white women won't get into the predominately white sororities. I don't think anyone is crazy enough to believe that. However, when you have chapters or entire organizations that never have black members, that tells the story in and of itself because you can't sit there and honestly say that there have NEVER been any qualified black women.
As far as the OP, it sounds like she has other issues going on within herself concerning her racial identity. She doesn't want to join a "black" sorority because she doesn't want to "limit" herself, but now it sounds like she wants to join a predominately white sorority. That's not equally limiting?