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Originally Posted by FunGirl123
Wow.
This has been blown entirely out of proportion.
This is simply not about "I wanna wear sweatpants and be a slut"
When I go to work, (no matter how tired I am) I absolutely do not mind dressing myself up and presenting myself in the best possible way. Because in this case you will be encountering many people that do not know you and will be expecting great service from you, and if you do not look presentable, then they might not take you seriously.
But I feel like being with your sisters in your chapter room at meeting is entirely different. I guess the problem I am having right now is that your sisters should accept you, no matter what. I am completely up for being committed and being there when the chapter needs me, but I also want them to understand that we cannot all be perfect. I am sorry for not initially giving examples. This is mainly because I do not want to be identified. And when I was talking about frat parties, I did not mean getting hammered in my letters. We are not allowed to wear our letters to frat parties. I meant, for example, there are times when I am tired, and don’t end up socializing as much as I can, and some of my ‘sisters’ penalize me for that, saying that I was not representing the sorority well. At meeting the other day, one of my sisters actually was asked to suck in her stomach! She was just feeling very bloated that night, and couldn’t help it! I am finding the idea of being controlled ridiculous, and completely irrelevant to when I’m working at my job, or being out in the real world. I absolutely do not mind my boss telling me what to do. I respect that. He is paying me. But not when people I expect to be my sisters, telling me to be perfect.
I am just sick of being judged by people that are supposed to stand by me ...
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The problem is that you think that you only have to look presentable when dealing with people that you don't know. What if you went to your sorority's convention? In a business meeting with a very large number of your sisters, would you dress up because you don't know them? Or dress down because they're your sisters and they should let you be yourself?
The issue I see here is that you're complaining about looking presentable in a business setting. You can always dress up but add your own style to it. I've seen people in badge attire wearing a suit, with a button-down shirt and very subtle jewelry. And I know one of my sisters, who was more artistic and a little different, would often come to meetings in a colorful long skirt, a black or white shirt, and larger, more colorful jewelry. You can add your own touches while being dressed up.
On the other hand, if some sisters are telling others (either directly or indirectly) that they're too fat, that's a problem. They should also understand that sometimes, people just aren't in the mood to party. Being tired isn't any reason to look down on someone. And in what way are they penalizing you for this?