[SWTXBelle]

An additional point to consider - chapters do not go public with their opinions of individual pnms, or why they did not chose to extend an invitation or a bid.

No one is questioning the right of both pnms and chapters to make their memberships selections based on whatever works for them. The point is whether or not a pnm should criticize a group simply because they do not meet her individual criteria, especially if said criteria seems shallow, petty, or stupid. Also, it seems to me that most GCers simply believe that a pnm should give a chapter every opportunity - including attending pref - to change the pnms mind. Not sign a bid you don't want - simply go to the party to make sure your opinion holds.

NPC groups do not discuss membership selection at all - so those on the outside cannot say with any authority WHY a pnm was cut, they can only assume they know. And that has proven problematic here on GC, also.