Thanks for the advice. I'll pass along your suggestions.
I actually got some good news from her today -- she's signed up to be on the Phi Mu powder puff team!
That's one step in the right direction. I agree that her fate lies in her hands. Part of the reason she joined her chapter was her comfort level with the girls. So I told her if she's comfortable around the girls she should be able to just approach a sister with questions, or whatever.