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Originally Posted by DrPhil
That's an excellent thread topic in itself.
I am hesitant of men who have "crazy exes," especially more than one. It almost always means that they are crazy themselves and have done something to either lead a woman on or to encourage crazy behavior.
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Exactly, I've had some previous relationships with similarities (the guys were alcoholics, didn't meet any of them in bars or even when booze was around) and I don't know why that was, other than I have a caring and loving personality, which led me to stay longer than I should have. I am sure some facet of my personality attracts men with that to me, and they aren't bad people, but they have a huge struggle that I haven't experienced. I left when they decided to not get help for themselves as any conditions or ultimatums would have led to disappointments. If they, and only they, made the choice to get help, I'd stand by their side 100% and reconsider a relationship.
I do have one ex who I fully believe needs therapy (no physical addictions), and when he refused to attend couples counseling sessions I decided the relationship wasn't worth it to me. My theory was what he was so scared of and was the real issue with him would be addressed if he went. He tried to paint me as crazy but it failed, miserably, to the point it made him look guano. He kept flaking out on our sessions, making plans with me and disappearing, and when I said "no more of this, I am done, have a nice life" he created a lot of problems for me.