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Old 12-30-2008, 04:57 PM
KSigkid KSigkid is offline
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Originally Posted by Kevin View Post
Weigh the costs versus the benefits of having a confrontation and then decide.

Example: Costs: Things might spill over into other aspects of your life with these former friends demanding that other current friends take sides.

Benefits: You'll have the benefit of knowing you clearly communicated your feelings.

I don't think any of us know your situation... Just try to figure out what your goals are here and act accordingly.
Exactly - I would only add, though, that I would think long and hard about any confrontation. Most people in your friend's situation would probably call and text less as the distance grew more apparent.

It's a tough situation; I had a similar situation with my childhood best friend. Unfortunately, things ended up coming to a head when I made him best man for my wedding (he flaked out and ended up begging out of the position a month before the wedding). It's hard, though, when there's no one confrontation, but just a slow realization that you're not really friends anymore.
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