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Originally Posted by violetpretty
Can you elaborate as to why you and your friends want to drop? It doesn't make sense to me that if you've found sisters you connect with, you still want to drop. I have two guesses, but I'll let you enlighten us. Remember, yours is not the last pledge class you'll see during your time as a collegian. You'll be able to help recruit the next pledge classes and you might find that you connect better with younger sisters than older sisters.
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During my new member period, I didn't feel that I truly "connected" with anyone. For the most part, I was just going through the motions without a thought about who was going to be my "best friend" and/or "favorite sister". I would go to my meetings, go to my events, and I remember I had a good time, but I knew there was a reason this chapter chose me to be a part of it, and I didn't have a second thought about it for the few months that I was a new member.
I don't really keep in touch with any of the sisters that came before me. I don't even really talk to my big all that much. But my pledge sisters, my little, and a few other girls that came after me are the people that I still contact from time to time, if not a few times a week. And they were the ones who truly became my friends. It's not that I didn't like the older sisters, and it's not as if we didn't have a good time when we hung out, I just found that my better friends were the ones who were initiated with me or after me.
If you weren't getting along with anyone at all, I'd probably be concerned. But if you have girls that you're connecting with, why not stick it out with them?
I've heard it go both ways. For some chapters, sisters from all new member classes bond with one another... for other chapters, sisters bond with the girls in their new member classes more so than with other members. What is your chapter like?
You say that your sorority is a terrible fit for you. Why? Are sisters mistreating you? Do you feel left out? Do sisters not seem to make an effort to get to know you? (If this last statment applies to you, maybe you should try to get to know them. Remember, they were sisters/friends before you joined. Naturally, they're closer with each other than they would be with you right now). What was your recruitment situation like? You said you couldn't go to half of the houses, but how many did you actually go to? Did you still see a good number of sororities? Were you happy where you preffed? Were you wary about this house before you signed your bid? Or were you excited that you got to be a part of their organization?
If you don't want to tell us, at least ask yourself why you truly want to drop. I don't know the details of your situation, but if you like your sorority, if you like your chapter, if you like some of the girls, generally I would say to stick it out. But if you're having MAJOR problems, then CONSIDER dropping. But understand that with that, you might not be a part of Greek life at all.