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Originally Posted by violetpretty
The only thing you might be able to talk Greek Life and/or 3rd choice chapter into is you wanting to reaccept your bid to 3rd choice chapter if possible. That is, if there is still space available. One year my chapter had a girl drop out the day after bid day (we made quota so there was only one spot), and we filled her spot with a PNM who had dropped out after pref.
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I agree with VioletPretty. The chapter you rejected may still be willing to accept you into it's new member class. Often times a chapter can re-extend you a bid if it hasn't reached total.
A humble request such as this could work.
“I enjoyed meeting your members but I just wasn’t sure about joining when I received the bid, which is why I declined. But I’m afraid that I reacted hastily. After more thought, I’ve realized that I am interested in becoming a member of Beta Beta Beta sorority. Based on this, are you interested in re-extending the bid to me?”
This message would be best delivered on your behalf by a member of your Panhellenic Council. Fortunately, many or most of the women in that chapter have been through formal recruitment and fully understand the stress and emotions of it all. They will empathize with your feelings.
Let's assume that you want to give it a try. The benefit of your current position is this: You can experience GLOs in that 3rd choice sorority this year and still walk away from that chapter at a later date. Right now you can't participate in recruitment until next fall. If you give the chapter a try, and later resign your membership, you will be in the same position. You can participate in formal recruitment next fall.
Let’s look at your other option. You may choose to remain disaffiliated altogether this year. Again, you can participate in formal recruitment next fall. You'd likely do so with sorority choice 1 and sorority choice 2 in mind. If so, it wouldn't hurt to develop friendships with women in those chapters during the school year. Demonstrate that you are a quality potential member. Get involved on campus with some "visible" organizations. Take on leadership roles. Show your ability to be a good time manager. Demonstrate your maturity. Don't let your fantastic GPA slide. Try to exude a positive attitude all the time. Be the great representative now that they are seeking in their membership.
Of course, I hope you will see if you can reverse your bid rejection situation.
In case you are wondering, there is no rule that prevents a sorority from extending a bid to a woman that it released during a prior recruitment.
You should also know that it is possible that another woman who DID want to join that chapter (your third choice) did NOT receive HER bid because she was the next person on this chapter's bid list after it closed/met quota. So, there may be another woman on your campus who was released from that chapter, or worse, released altogether from recruitment as a result of your taking that quota spot that you did not want. It is possible and it has happened.
Keep us up to date and good luck with your decision.