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Originally Posted by kddani
Am I understanding you correctly? Your daughter had 2 houses left on the last day, then dropped out? How many houses did she expect to have left? Preference, at most, is three parties. Did she not go to preference for either of the two houses that genuinely were interested in getting to know her and potentially having her as a sister.
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What???
Just because a sorority shows interest in a PNM does NOT automatically mean that the PNM feels comfortable or at home in that chapter. Who are you to judge this woman's
daughter for dropping out of recruitment because she wasn't comfortable with the houses she had left? Every sorority is not for everyone; they are not all the same, and that's the beauty of the system, but it also means that not every girl is going to fit in at every house.
I think that too often on this site girls are accused of dropping out of recruitment because they thought the houses they had left were "bottom tier." Why do we assume that is the case? This girl could have had two "top tier" chapters left that she simply couldn't see herself in.
Which is worse? Knowing that you wouldn't be happy with any of the sororities that invited you to preference and dropping out of recruitment? or knowing that you wouldn't be happy with any of the sororities that invited you to preference but attending the parties, signing a bid card, and dropping out after bid day, thus taking the spot of a girl who would have been HAPPY in that group?