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Originally Posted by 33girl
I am confused, it seems like AA was addressing a question that wasn't asked..."Why would a chapter member say 'you don't need recs'?" My guess is that a chapter member at a competitive school would say that if she WANTS the girl asking the question to be cut.
Oh, and alums might also not want to fill out recs because they just plain don't want to bother. Not everyone gives a crap about that sort of thing.
I would never fill out a rec or write a letter of recommendation or even introduction for a woman I didn't know personally.
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I probably wouldn't think about it if I weren't in a region where it's a big deal. But knowing how valuable they can be for the girls and knowing how it could help a chapter, it seems worthwhile. (But I probably went the first eight or ten years out of school not writing any and really only started doing a bunch in the last few years. Oddly, I think GC made me more likely to think about writing them.)
I would never misrepresent how well I knew a PNM, but I've written them for people with varying levels of closeness to me, and to be honest, how well does the average teacher (or friend's parent) know a kid that she thinks she knows personally?
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Originally Posted by gee_ess
I think the rec forms and what is required on them varies from GLO to GLO. Some forms ask for info as well as whether or not the alum would recommend them for membership. Other forms are filled out only if the member recommends the pnm for membership.
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I didn't realize this. What do alumnae whose groups are in the second category do if someone really sketchy is rushing? It would take a lot for me to make contact with a chapter to say something negative, but if it ever happened, there's an option on the form to not recommend.