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Originally Posted by aephi alum
I have to disagree with those of you who are saying there's a "right age" to get married... whether it's 23, 25, 30, etc. If and when you meet a person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, grow old with, maybe raise children with... that's the right time.
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Yeah. I got married at 23. We are very happy and I don't feel like I've ever had to compromise the freedom of my 20s...sometimes we go out together, and sometimes we go out with our individual friends. We travel widely (both together and separately - he's heading to Hong Kong this fall for a legal competition). We've both advanced quickly in our separate and time-consuming careers (journalism for me, law for him). We both have hobbies that the other supports but isn't involved in (triathlons and running for me, photography for him). I'm not sure why y'all seem to feel that you have to be single to do these things. Maybe I'm just lucky I didn't marry a control freak?
I never get the "When are you having kids?" question in DC, but I get it all the time from my dad's family. My dad has 9 brothers and sisters, and all of them except for him still live in the same rural Indiana town they grew up in. Most of them are farmers and married young and started having kids right away to ensure they would have enough farmhands. I am the oldest of 42 grandkids and the first (by one month) to get married, so of course they expected me to be the first to have kids and they were mostly incredulous when I said we were waiting until our 30s. It's just a difference in regional social norms.