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From an etiquette standpoint, getting married legally then having another "wedding" isn't appropriate.
Of course, lying to your guests and making them think they were there to share in the happiness and witness your marriage probably isn't kosher with the etiquette mavens either.
I'd be pretty ticked if I went to a wedding, spent the money on hotel, gas/airplane, food, GIFT, etc. then found out after the fact that the couple had lied and were already married. It's in all around poor taste to lie to people!
If you want to get married for the military benefits, then do it. Just don't be bummed when people think it's inappropriate that you try to do all of the BWW (big white wedding) things after you're already married- bachelorette, shower, huge "wedding," etc.
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