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Originally Posted by grad
I am as a matter of fact, which is why I haven't gone where I know I will see her. I'm just still angry. You're right. 1)I'm LETTING her get to me but I haven't done anything to her have I? I'm making a choice. 2) I feel she LET this man get to her and did not control herself like she should have.
Instead of coming to MY house to do that crazyness, she could have done something else - anything - but what she did.
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@Bolded starting with #2) That is too much judgement of a behavior you cannot control. NO ONE--NOT even her baby's daddy, will EVER understand her lack of control without medical treatment. And if you are not a licensed clinical psych evaluator--neither should you try to rationalize her actions... All you can do is actually act on your Sorority's programs and give assistance in the form of leaflets or pamphlets or call the crisis center hotline...
(I am so wrong for that, I know 
...) In fact, I have a EXCELLENT 1-800 number...
#1) I am happy you have CHOSEN NOT to act on your impulses. That is wonderful. You need to congratulate yourself by giving yourself a heart salutation and gift for your choice of resilience and basically keeping the faith for your enemies.
What would it take for you to move forward on this situation? Just asking? Don't forget if you need extra assistance, contact
Ariafya. It is a safe-free-zone.