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Originally Posted by FSUZeta
that's uc-berkeley. it's different at bama. no need to pass judgement on either place.
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Yeah I know but judgement still happens here its just not as intense. My mother is a Bama alum and I was raised in the state so I do understand the conservative south "ways." I'm just wishing it was different now.
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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS
Would your chapter bid a woman with brands across her forehead, lip plates, and "cheetah print" tattood on her eyelids and cheeks, though?
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I wouldn't know. No one like that has rushed our sorority before but I'm sure she'd be judged on her personality in my chapther much less than her looks.
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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle
So the "real you " is a tattoo and a lip ring?
Here's a shocker for all you sweet young things out there - you are judged by your appearance. Every time you meet someone for the first time, studies show you are sized up within seconds. That's human nature. Knowing that, however, you can alter your appearance to send different messages. That's what adults do. You look different for a job interview than you do when hanging around the house, and you'll alter your appearance to look different at a formal social event than when you are playing a sport. I hope the "real you" is something more than your mere appearance. But sometimes, your appearance is all people have initially. And it is foolish not to put your best foot forward in a situation when you are looking for something from someone - whether it is a bid, a job, approval from your in-laws, a loan, whatever.
So, wear that mohawk if you want - but spare us the bs about "they are judging me by my appearance!" when you don't get the job - or the bid.
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Oh sweet belle....you should know something about me before you pass e-judgement. I realize that there is a time and place to take out my lip ring and cover my tattoos. I actually have a really well paying (around 15 a hour) hotel managing job that I do on the weekends as a part time job. I also just received an amazing intership at a hospital this summer. I do know that I have to present myself a certain way at times....but that doesn't stop me from being me (appearance wise)when I'm not at work. If you want to know the real me then I can tell you who I am. I'm a beautiful, strong woman who is confident and socially competent. Just because I chose to have a tattoo or a lip ring doesn't make me any less of a person and no my entire identity does not hinge on it. I merely like it. My tattoos are very pretty art pieces that were carefully planned and can be covered and piercings are removable. So I can be a successful woman as well as express myself.
Who said anything about a mohawk? I'm kinda bummed I can't really have purple streaks in my hair because of my job but that's life. You learn to live with it and bend it alittle.
My question to you is you seem so harsh and bitter on the subject.....why?