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I'll chime in here, too, to say that cutting yourself doesn't necessarily mean that person is about to go apesh!t on everyone. It is a not uncommon symptom/coping mechanism of clinical depression or bipolar disorder and it would be really unfortunate to conclude that this young man is more unstable than he actually is. Yes, he needs help, but no, this behavior doesn't mean he's so unstable you should be afraid to approach him about his problems.

On approaching the member about getting mental health: you don't want it to seem like you are trying to pawn off this guy's problems on a stranger instead of his friends/brothers... because he may be having some issues with blaming others for not being supportive.

I think the most caring and sincere way to communicate to someone that you care and because you care you want to help is FIRST to spend some time talking to him (preferably when sober) about how he feels and why he sometimes does these things. Something like "Hey man, I noticed you seemed down today/yesterday/last week and I wanted you to know that you can talk to me if you'd like about this stuff. I know that sometimes talking to someone about a problem sometimes makes it a lot easier to deal with." Then, if he says he wants to talk... LISTEN. Only at the end of when he's done talking (or if he says he doesn't want to talk about it with you), suggest that either you/a friend/a relative has really had a lot of success with counseling and "hey man, it never hurts to try."

ETA: I'd also follow up with some recommendations next time you see him (or if you really don't want to address the issue in person, again, you could even email him some names if you know he checks it). I wouldn't recommend having the recommendations immediately because that may make it seem to planned out. If he says he wants immediate help, you can go together to a computer to get the info and go together to the campus mental health provider. (One more reason to do this during the day... besides the likeliness that you'll be talk to this guy when you're both sober)