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Originally Posted by SoCalGirl
To my friend, his wife wasn't asking "am I your one an only". He took it as a statisical question and answered the way he did. He understood the question but not the intent of the question. Which is why a logical answer was all kinds of wrong. Does that make more sense?  He could never quite seem to get that he had to think about the question behind the question before answering. "Veiled questions" are something most guys don't do but for women it's second nature that we don't even find it odd. I think it's so common for women that we don't question if it's a positive or negative trait. I think it's part of the way that we just communicate differently than men. We don't intend to ask loaded questions. They just come out that way.
But anyways, I'm not trying to derail this thread. |
I see what you mean but I don't think it's a woman thing.
Couples who have "soul mate" and "the one" discussions with one another are often doing so in a veiled manner. Both men and women would rather not have certain questions answered honestly. And sometimes they want honesty because they are looking for an "out." So they will ask certain questions expecting a certain answer, rather than just being straight forward and saying "I don't think you're 'the one'/I don't want to be with you" or "I'm insecure because you don't treat me like 'the one.'"
This doesn't really derail the thread because dating and relationships are very much about communication. Being told you're not "the one" after years of dating could mean that the couple has been miscommunicating, or being veiled, throughout the relationship.