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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
Keep that attitude, PNM08...it's called maximizing your options. Panhellenic recommends that you do that so you have the lowest chance of ending up empty handed on Bid Day. As for Tippiechik...would you really drop a group because a sister "blinked too much?" That's pretty superficial...the poor girl may have a tic! If it was deeper than what the OP wrote, then you can't blame PNM08 for being confused that a Junior Transfer Student would have enough guts to be that picky!
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Do you seriously think the op dropped a house SOLELY b/c of the blinking?
Yeah, tell her to maximize her options. Then, when she gets a house she really doesn't want and ends up dropping as a pledge, I'm sure you'll be around to console her...
It's called being honest with people. We need to be telling pnms that it's ok to drop houses they are positive they don't want. GC rush addicts blow so much sunshine up pnms butts that they go in thinking rush is all rainbows and puppies.
I would rather see someone empty handed on bid day and still have a chance of joining a group later through cob than tell her to maximize and have her join a group she doesn't want. She'll then either 1) drop after the group spends a ton of time trying to retain her or 2) Stay in and regret her choice.
Sure people join groups they are not sure about. And, yes... There ARE people who give it their best and end up liking that house. But, if someone KNOWS deep down a group isn't for them, why would you want to tell them to still consider them?
Is it "Panhellenic" to give such advice? No. It's honest. Plain and simple. We all see these girls come back if they get THAT house wanting to know if they can drop and rerush. And, then GC scolds her for not being sisterly AFTER we've told her to maximize and give everyone a fair shot! We give her the bad news of having to wait to rerush and tell her that groups look down on people who pledge and drop.
So, suck a big one if you don't like my advice. I don't care -- I'm actually telling the truth that most here don't have the guts or desire to do.