[lilzetakitten]

ZTAberry, I totally get that right now you have bigger things to worry about than Zeta. A child is a huge commitment, as is marriage! But this advice is coming from another collegiate, not an alumna. I don't have the same pressing issues you do, but I am in the same life stage.

Your chapter sisters had their chance to deny membership to you as you went through recruitment. However, when they chose to give you a bid, the ball went into your court, and it's been there ever since. They have absolutely NO RIGHT to deny you your membership in ZTA.

Do you have a close relationship with any of your advisors? Even if you don't, I'm certain that they would be more than happy to help you keep your membership. The EC of your chapter is not the be-all, end-all to ZTA. You can very easily go over their heads, and that's your right completely.

Even if you don't want to do this for you right now, think about what it would mean if you had a girl, to know that you could share that sisterhood with her. It's always very special to my chapter when we get a legacy, especially when her family member can come to her initiation.

Like I mentioned, this is your choice, and I don't doubt that you love ZTA. But you have just as much right to keep your membership as any other initiated sister.