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Originally Posted by PeppyGPhiB
Again, I KNOW my boyfriend and certainly know how he keeps his apartment. I know he keeps every knicknack given to him and that he doesn't load his dishes into the dishwasher in a timely manner. And I don't need to live with him full time to know that stuff. I also don't need to live with him to know how he manages his finances, because we TALK about that kind of stuff. I know how much money he makes and how much his bills cost, and I even know how much he puts in his 401k...and we didn't have to move in together to learn that stuff.
My point is that before you move in with someone, you should already know all this stuff about them. If you're not at the point in your relationship where you feel comfortable being yourself around him/her, you're either not ready yet or that person isn't the right person for you.
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I'm not even talking about that type of stuff - finances, etc... My parents have been married for 30 years and they still fight about how to fold the towels - it's little things like that. Maybe it's because we're in a LDR, but I had no idea that my boyfriend worked until 11 almost every night because I didn't ask him where he was when I called him - but I sure noticed he wasn't home all the nights I ate dinner by myself. I also didn't know he was incapable of putting dirty laundry in a hamper, because on the weekends when I'd come to visit it all magically made it in there.
It didn't make or break our relationship, but I'm glad we got a lot of the petty little fights out of the way now because I think it would make your first year of marriage a little more stressful to have them then.