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I'm not too sure where the feigning of interest is coming into play, except maybe the "more diplomatic" fraternities saying they have limited space even when that may not be true. This applies to both fraternities and sororities: it's bad PR to have PNMs leave your recruitment party with a bad taste in their mouths, regardless of whether you or your chapter is interested in them. The chapter could be really interested in the friend of a particular PNM, so you don't want anyone to have a negative experience. Just because a group of PNMs come through recruitment doesn't mean they will all get bids. They are separated so members can get to know them as individuals.

Like skylark said, one member may really click with a PNM, but the PNM isn't offered a bid because one member's opinion isn't always representative of the whole chapter. There was one chapter where I clicked with some individuals, but I was not invited to preference. It was tough to swallow, but it was for the best, because I wouldn't have fit in there. Conversely, I have had some great conversations with PNMs on the member side of recruitment, but they don't necessarily fit into the chapter just because I had a great conversation with them. So while it can be heartbreaking to a PNM that they had a great conversation with a member and end up without a bid or an invite, it's not necessarily that the host was feigning interest; there could have been a connection on an individual level, but not a chapter level.