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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
Can you do any of these in public? Publicly, how can one honor and appreciate a man or men?
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Food and sports can certainly be in public.
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Originally Posted by Senusret I
That's the thing.... other than receiving an award based on merit of some sort, I don't think most men want or need to be appreciated publicly.
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Exactly.
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Originally Posted by AlexMack
If I was a guy and you wanted to do me an event here is what I would say:
-I don't want to have to dress up
-I want to eat foods I enjoy, not food you think I should eat.
-I want to sit and enjoy the company of people I know AND like and get to talk about what I want.
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You understand us! That's exactly what I would have said. Oh wait a minute.
I did say that. 
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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
Okay, men hate to be honored and appreciated and actually do like women to read their minds... I cannot believe that, but hey, I can be wrong. Fine. I am happy to be wrong in this one.
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I really don't think that's an accurate take on it, AKA Monet. (And I don't think it was a stupid question at all.) It's not that men "hate" to be honored, per se. It's that our idea of what makes us feel honored or appreciated is
different those those lacking a Y chromosome. We don't want to feel like someone is making a fuss over us. We like to keep it simple.
And it's not so much a matter of reading our minds -- it's a matter of believing us when we don't give the answer you expect. An example -- for quite a few years running, as my birthday approached, my wife would ask how I wanted to celebrate. Almost every year, I said the same thing -- just a simple supper, at home or out, with her and the kids. She would press as though that answer wasn't "good enough" -- as though surely I was just trying not to make too much work for her and wasn't really saying what I wanted.
Sure enough, a few days later would tell me other people (family or friends) that she had invited to a birthday supper. Being a good husband, I'd just say "thanks," and I would enjoy supper enough, but I would have enjoyed it more if I hadn't had to be "sociable." Now, after quite a few years of this, I think she's really starting to believe me when I say "just a simple supper with you and the kids."
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Originally Posted by Animate
But to try to answer your question, if you know the group of men then I suggest treating them to a spa session. This is rarely something a guy would do for himself but he would definitely go for it if it was a gift, or at least I would.
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LOL. I would be speechless if I was given a spa session. Speechless and horrified -- I can't think of a more miserable way to spend time. You're tight that this is rarely something a guy would do for himself. There's a reason for that.
Seriously, if I used the gift certificate (I'd be very tempted to give it back to her, telling her that she would appreciate it much more than I would), I would spend the entire time I was at the spa thinking, "I thought she knew me better than this. How could she think I would like this?"