[RollTide08]

Originally Posted by honeychile

First, congratulations on your bid. I hope you loved the parties, love the house, and love the sisters in it. You've worked hard for it.

It's those lame, ancient alumnae who genuinely believe in the standards, creed, symphony, whatever behind your sorority who are donating money of their own free will to keep all of their sorority houses across the country (or two) looking fine and being insured, etc. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who have been working sight unseen in the kitchens, offices, and other rooms, making sure that the sisters have time to entertain the PNMs without too much worry. It's those lame, ancient alumnae who volunteer at each school, your GLO philanthropies, and write recs for the PNMs, so they can enjoy the benefits of being in a sorority.

It's those same lame, ancient alumnae who, after donating much of their time and money, care enough about that chapter (and others) to keep an eye on Recruitment and hope that the chapter did well.

There are several alums to whom I am very much grateful for all they've done. But you'd be naive to believe that all alums are involved strictly because of the goodness of their hearts. I have friends in every sorority on my campus, and all of them have horror stories during Rush regarding alums trying to bully them into taking the girls they want/don't want. One of my roommates had an alum corner her and threaten to pull her pin if she didn't vote against an IN HOUSE LEGACY coming through. I have personally been told that I didn't deserve to be in my house because I vouched personally for a girl who an alum had written a negative rec for (because she beat said alum's daughter out for cheerleading) There are amazing alum who take to heart the sorority's creed and care for the good of the house. But there are just as many who are intent on living out their glory days by harrassing members during Rush. I have no doubt that some of this type exist on this message board. Please consider this before you make blanket statements.