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Originally Posted by SoMom
I'm a new poster but have lurked for quite a while. I do not want to belittle anyones' pain and I'm not sure exactly how to articulate my thoughts without sounding harsh but here goes:
Most of our children get exactly what they want too often and too quickly. And we usually knock ourselves out to see to it that they do!!!!
However, in my experience, it has been the disappointments that build the most and best qualities of character. Through (thankfully few) very hurtful 'rejection situations', my D has learned some valuable things and has grown from them. Now she looks back and points to those disappointments and can say how grateful she is for them! So, I guess I am saying that we should rejoice in their accomplishments, share the pain of their disappointments and pray that they learn from both.
Pain passes. Wisdom learned from hard lessons lasts forever.
For those going thru the rejection process with their Ds, I really do hope your pain passes quickly and that you can find a silver lining.
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I think this is a much healthier long term parenting approach than trying to "fix" everything that happens, either by doing everything for your child in advance or by taking up their causes after the fact.
As bad as a negative recruitment results seems in the moment and shortly after, if not getting a bid to sorority is one of your daughter's bigger disappointments in life, I'd say you and she did an excellent job.
(In most cases, it's not even the end of her opportunities to be Greek, if she still wants to, but even when it is, missing the opportunity is a small and somewhat frivolous thing in the course of a lifetime. It's really not a reflection of her worth as an individual. Don't make her feel like it's a bigger deal that it is.)