I am a legacy, and I have 2 daughters. My mother was very involved as an alumnae, as was my aunt who also was serving on national council at the time of my pledging/initiation. Although I knew my mother wanted me to become a DZ, I never once felt any pressure from her to do so. She always told me it was more important for me to find a place I belonged. My aunt? She would have flipped.
As for my daughters. Of course I would love for them to find the same level of sisterhood with Delta Zeta that I have found. It's amazing to share being a sister with my mother and also being her daughter and friend. Not to mention it gives me someone to talk to sorority issues about. I would love to have that with my girls also. As a Rho Chi (not sure what they're called now) I can't tell you how many girls didn't pledge their mother's sorority simply because their mother said "ABC or nowhere". I have pledged to myself to not do that, and follow the example put forth by my mom and just be involved as an alumnae and show them what DZ has to offer, both in college and after. But honestly, if/when they go to college, if there is a DZ chapter there, they might just not feel like that's the place for them, and although I'd be disappointed, if they chose another group I'd be happy that they found a sisterhood with another sorority. Cause that's what is important.
Of course, buying the t-shirs that say "little DZ" and "Future DZ" and as much pink/green stuff as humanly possible doesn't hurt...
