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Originally Posted by AOII_LB93
You can always look at what might have been...but ultimately you need to look at what is. It's my understanding that ALL of the organizations at Auburn are outstanding. Things happen, not everyone ends up at their first choice, but it's up to the person to make the best of the situation.
Recruitment is not a "for sure" process and ultimately the chapters choose the women that they feel best fit their needs, creed, values, etc. We as members and non-members both can't second guess their process because we were not there. Why not let it be and let your daughter figure it out? Are you sure that your daughter is not having the chance to fully enjoy it because she knows how you feel about the situation? I'm not being snarky here, just asking a question.
Quite a few women on GC have not gotten their first choice org in recruitment, and some have not gotten in at all. I didn't get my first choice, but you know what? I'm happier for it now because I made the best of it and found people in my organization that I could relate to, and ultimately joining a sorority is so much more than the 4 years one is a collegian.
ETA: I can also almost guarantee you that not everyone in her org. is about getting trashed and partying...the sheer size of each of the chapters at Auburn leads me to believe that there is a little bit of everything in each one. If she truly is unhappy, then she should depledge before initiation. However she should know that with recruitment the way it is at Auburn, she may not be able to get a bid as a sophomore.
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As I said in past posts, she is giving it a chance, meeting new people, accepting that this is how it is. I guess I was simply explaining why she was confused. I was asking for my own clarification. I have really appreciated any information that I have learned by those on this board. I can't tell you how helpful it has been. I have shared some of the stories with my daughter and it has helped her realize that her situation is not unique and that most end happily if given some time. As I said in an earlier post, if she decides to withdraw, she will not try to get into another sorority. She has a great group of friends at Auburn that have all also survived rush with a bid and even though they are in different sororities, they are supporting and encouraging each other. I'm sure that whatever she decides, will be ok. I do wish I had found this board BEFORE rush. I think it would prepare those of us that were so clueless to help our daughters be prepared for anything, and if it doesn't turn out as they hoped, give them the assurance that it can still have a happy ending as long as they have an open mind, a forgiving heart and stay true to themselves.