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Originally Posted by RedRover
The daughter of a good friend of mine had a slightly different experience in a similar situation.
The woman was participating in rush at a southern university were rush is rather competitive. She received the maximum amount of invitations through every round and gave deep thought as to which invitations to accept. When it came time to submit her perference card, she decided to withdraw from the process.
I eventually asked her why she made such a decision. She said that while she met a number of young women that she felt that she "bonded" with on individual basis, she felt she made no connection with any of the sororities on a "communal basis."
I asked her if she ever regretted her decision. She said in looking back that she had mixed emotions. Overall she said she had a very positive college experience, but often wondered what she missed by not joining a sorority.
She also noted that she isn't much of a joiner when it comes to organizations and is even less of a joiner when it comes to women's organizations.
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This is the thing that has so confused my daughter and I can understand why. She went through rush and received the maximum invitations each time. As the cuts were made with each round, she kept getting invited back to her favorites. On pref. day, her choices are determined by her feelings for a group and what she perceives as their feelings about her. When you are told on your visits that the sorority feels great about you and what you can offer them and the feeling is mutual, you are reassured because they keep inviting you back. They become your top choices. As the process goes on, you cut those that you may have liked, but were unsure of so you end up limiting yourself in what you can write on that pref. list at the end. She now wishes she wouldn't have cut some from her list because she was basing her choices on possible false impressions. You can't get those back. Am I looking at this the wrong way?