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Originally Posted by mamasue
My daughter has been told for weeks that she is the best potential new member for several sororities. Recs are glowing... resume reflects a very well rounded student with a high GPA and many activities and honors. She is beautiful outside and in... She started RUSH last week, had invitations to revisit the maximum number of houses and then... devastation. All of the houses she chose cut her, and she is still rushing 2 groups that she really has no interest in. Her self esteem is shot, feels worthless and "a loser"... all due to a few minutes spent in 6 sorority rush parties. I wish I had told her not to participate in RUSH, spend some time getting acclimated on campus and then decide. Young women have a hard enough time in this society without this added insult. For the record, I support the system, but am now on the side of living with what happens when good people get cut. My daughter is certainly not alone... but she sure feels that way. BTW-- she heard back from some girls who are members of one of her top choices... they expected to see her and when she did not appear at any of the day 3 parties, assumed she had cut them. Go figure. At least she has heard the words "I don't get it- everyone loved you." Advice?
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I would tell her NOT to listen to what the girls from the sorority who "loved her" are saying. They shouldn't be talking to girls who are still in the rush process!!
Other than that, we weren't in member selection for those groups, so we really can't tell you why your daughter was cut.