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Originally Posted by Soliloquy
While I have absolutely no child-rearing experience, like many I do have parents. There were (and still are) plenty of times where my parents would act childish or make a rude comment. Generally it was out of emotion, like many of the mothers on this board have commented on. A day later or so, my mom or dad would apologize for speaking so rashly and things were ok.
Parents are humans too, they're liable just like anyone else is, to allow their emotions get the best of them. It's all part of life and part of learning!
So, in my opinion, I think it's pretty silly to be judgemental about a woman none of us know in person. We have no idea what kind of day she had when she posted that, we also have no idea exactly how much stress she has endured watching her daughter hurt. Therefore, we cannot speculate on her ability as a parent, which is my inference based on the responses I have seen. Apparently she's done a great job to raise an intelligent girl who was accepted into a great school. A few typed words on the internet cannot really offer any insight on a person's tone, mentality, or background.
How's about we focus on the great stories that are going on, then send prayers/good vibes to the poor girls who have had their heart bruised by rejection? Kay? Great!  |
*shrug* I don't expect parents to be perfect, but that kind of reaction crosses a line in my mind. And, if I'd seen something other than "being in a sorority IS really really important, I
was in one, maybe it was her fault she got cut so I'll ask her if she even tried" in that whole comment, I'd be more understanding about it. As I said, I haven't seen her say, "I didn't mean it, I shouldn't have said that to her," and what I've seen is all I can base my opinions on.
And I'm not particularly judging her. I don't think she's a bad mother. I'm not judging her mentality or background. I think she should NOT have said that. Uh uh, no way in hell. And I don't understand how your daughter's pain somehow becomes all about you, not her. Even if she'd vented that on GC but not said it
to her daughter, I'd feel differently about it.
And if you want to focus on happy thoughts, this is not the thread
