[PhDiva]

As a former aspirant who became a member of Sigma Gamma Rho by gleaning information from these boards, I recommend not only using discretion but also take time to read and absorb FIRST before you blab, blab, blab. When I joined GC a few years ago, I never made a "I wanna be an SGRho post as my introductory thread". Hell, SisterGreek Crimson Tide (of DST) even remarked that I keep my interest real quiet when she congratulated me on becoming a member. That is because (1) I read the stickies so based on that I knew most membership inquiries were frowned upon and (2) I could actually learn alot about how members interacted with sorors, fellow Greeks and non-affliated folks without screaming "Hey pick me, pick me!!!".

I think the frustration alot of BGLO members on GC feel is when an aspirant not only doesn't read the stickie threads which guide them to membership information via IHQ websites but there is this general disregard for learning how to properly become apart of an online community. Though online, it's still a community and there is a general vibe and it takes time to learn personalities, what's appropriate and to learn which member might be open to answering membership questions via PM. You wouldn't walk up to a group of Greeks on the yard and say "I'm gonna be your frat or soror soon!!!" so why do you think that's remotely okay online? I know online communication has retarded some of our abilities at social interactions but the least you can do is read the STICKIES and sit back and feel things out before you put your foot in your mouth.

PhDiva