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Originally Posted by SmartBlondeGPhB
These girls you know aren't even in sororities and yet you think that's the normal type of woman we take?? How do you even know they are going to get in?
You seem to have already made up your mind.........  |
See, I was thinking this too. I've been mulling this over since I first read it, trying to get my thoughts into the proper words. But sickness and lots of drugs will probably render this rather confusing. I will preface it by saying that I mean no disrespect to anyone. It is an opinion that I am basing on reading several comments in MANY threads - not just this one.
I feel that a lot of people are stereotyping the "pretty girl" sorority as vapid, slutty, party brats. It's one thing to go into their parties and say, "well, I just wouldn't fit in." But to come to conclusions about their entire existence and moral fiber based solely on the fact that they are pretty and that perhaps other snobby PNMs are dying to join seems just as shortsighted as these people accuse the pretty girls of being. Just because boys flock to these girls doesn't mean that they are idiots with no leadership potential. Just because one or two of them weren't very nice in high school doesn't mean that the whole chapter is full of Mean Girls.
I'm not denying the existence of bitchy sorority girls. I'm not denying the existence of sorority girls with crappy moral character. I'm just saying don't judge a book by its cover and don't judge an entire chapter on one or two members. We all have members that might not have been asked to join if we had had a more in-depth glimpse into their high school careers.
In my sorority experience, I have known such a tremendous diversity of women and personalities. Some of the most aesthetically pleasing have also been some of the most intelligent, gracious, kindhearted, and motivated women that I've had the pleasure of working with.
Again - I'm not attacking the OP directly. She's obviously considering sorority life for the first time, so her knowledge is limited only to hearing talk around her high school. But if we are constantly going around telling PNMs to keep all their options open and to consider all chapters - no matter their popularity or size, I hope that they also keep their minds open to the fact that pretty doesn't automatically equal snobby.