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Originally Posted by DMCBlondie
You say they freaked, but you are one of them, technically.
When I was a new member, sometimes I felt like people weren't talking to me or asking me to do anything, but then I realized the problem was me not them. Your sorority experience is what you make it. If you only attend the minimum amount of activities and stay away from the house, you will feel isolated. We tell our new members, come to the house every day between every class, even if you don't feel comfortable or don't know anyone, because over time things will change. The more you're around, the more you'll be included in and the less you'll miss out on.
I never thought about dropping, but at the end of my first year in the sorority I didn't really feel close to anyone. Not being close to anyone in your pledge class is not an excuse though. Don't make your choice until you have the opportunity to connect with some new members. Take it upon yourself to be the sister you think your chapter is missing. Make it a point to get to know all the new members and maybe you'll find a new best friend  It is a great feeling to know that younger sisters respect you and look to you for advice. |
This is really true. I didn't make a huge effort during my NM period and I regret it now. Ironic thing was, the day all my sisters moved back to the house after summer break, I shot straight over there because I'd missed them all so much.
There has to be a two-way effort. I didn't realize this until it was too late. Go hang out at your house, even if it's just to study in-between classes. The more you're around, the more they're going to realize that you do want to be a part of the chapter.
OTOH, if you are really that unhappy, it may not be worth it to stay. Honestly, I'd try making an effort first, calling up some of your sisters and saying, "we never hang out and I'd really like to get to know you better. Want to get coffee/lunch/whatever?" If you try and it's just not working, you don't have to stay.