[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I gave you some advice many posts ago about leaving this thread alone because all of the negative back and forth communication is not helpful to you and what you hoped to accomplish by coming to gc. Sometimes regardless of what others are doing (right or wrong), we have to be accountable for our own actions. I looked back thru these posts to see where things went wrong. I wanted to see what ticked everybody off and I found it...it was your ATTITUDE Roz! You didn't come here like someone who was humble (and being humble is not weak) and just wanted to learn more. From the very beginning, you got DEFENSIVE about what others were saying when they were only voicing their opinions...and you have a smart mouth and I'm sure you know it. Go back to post #108 and see for yourself and see the bolded text above (your response to ladygreek). You were going toe to toe with people instead of accepting what they had to say and like one big NPHC family who wasn't going to let their sisters and brothers be "attacked," everybody jumped on you. And that's really what happened because I was reading thru these posts thinking why in the he** don't people care for Roz...what set them off? I mean we've had many threads with conversations about the topic of new orgs that didn't end up like this. As a matter of fact, this thread started out positive with new org members just expressing their opinions back and forth but you came in and changed the entire tone of the thread because you were so DEFENSIVE from the very beginning. And if you know anything about working with people, you know that NO ONE responds well to defensiveness. So when you got defensive, they got defensive. I urge you to go back and review the posts and you'll see.

A couple of points. On the quote of mine that you bolded, did you read a few posts down my response to her after she called me on the carpet about that comment? Seems everybody wants to overlook the fact that I apologized to her and let her know that I really was NOT trying to be rude or a smart-behind. So, that brings back the point you made about each of us only being responsible for our own actions. I owned up to mine with her about that comment. Whether or not she chose to accept it is on her. I don't think she did, even though I really meant it, because she kept insulting me (subtly, but still), anyway.

Also, let's not overlook the fact that in other posts I have admitted that I bear blame about what has happened here. The point of contention is that people want me to take the blame for EVERYTHING that's happened, and I will not. Because as you have already stated, I'm only responsible for what I did; therefore, I will only own up to my part in this, which I thought I was doing by admitting that I "jacked some things up, too" and also by saying in a different post that I was not completely innocent in all that has happened here. But, those admissions have been ignored. That's just further proof for me that I never had a chance with some of these people.

You focused on what I did to make people angry in this thread. But, the root of the problem goes back to my very first days on GC. All was well until I made a faux pas and asked a naive question about some kind of "stance". Someone came at me in what I felt was a condescending and haughty manner, and made some demands of me. I told them I found their approach rude and that I would not be doing what they demanded of me. That touched off a firestorm aimed at me. Apparently, being a neophyte I was disobedient to a prophyte and didn't know "my place". I'm sure my attitude of "whatever, this is just a messageboard on the Internet" did not help matters, and I will take the hit for that.

So, when I talk about how I've been treated on here, I'm not just referencing this thread. I'm talking about from Day 1. So, that might be why many think I'm overreacting about what's happened just in this thread, and thinking about it from their POV, I can see how they would think that, if we limit things to this thread alone. But, again, I'm talking about the entirety of my experience here on GC.

Understand that I'm not trying to jump on you and act like you're the only one at fault here but usually when someone feels attacked by many, it's because they also had a hand in planning their own "attack," whether they recognize it or not. Just start over Roz. Leave this thread alone and leave the history behind this thread alone and introduce yourself in a new thread without getting DEFENSIVE.

That's so optimistic. I'm usually an optimistic person, and as much as I would like that, I don't think it's possible. People here have proven that they have their minds made up about me and aren't willing to give me a chance. And, truthfully, even if they said they were willing, I wouldn't trust them after being attacked on a personal level. They could have made their points without making personal attacks. Sarcasm and snarkyness is one thing, but personally attacking someone is something else, altogether. I didn't make it personal, I didn't take it there. On that point, they drew first blood. And, even if I did start over, if I then ignored the posts from those folks who did personally attack me, and only talk to those that didn't, that would cause another issue and make people mad all over again. This is just something I can't win for losing, so I don't even want to expend the energy to try. I know that's not the right attitude for me to have, especially as a Christian, but I can't help the way I feel right now. I know some people are going to find a way to use that against me, too.. but I'm past caring at this point. I just want all this negativity to end and for everybody to move on.

While we may get sarcastic and "snarky" at times, the NPHC members on greekchat (from what I've observed) are good peeps who only want to learn, challenge, explore, and help, but you have to approach and respond to them in the correct manner or the manner in which their accustomed. That's why it's best for new people to observe a little before jumping in and starting to post. Again, I wish you all the best with your org.

Thank you for your well wishes. As to the rest of what you said, they may be good people, but after all the personal attacks that have been hurled my way, I just don't even want to find out how true that might be. I know I'm wrong, but that's just something I'm going to have to lay at the foot of the cross and let Jesus fix.