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Originally Posted by sbx_six_eye
Just to respond to some of your comments...yes, I knew that by joining ANY organization I would be questioned about its existence. But what I don't appreciate is those who want to try to "pledge" me all over again about my organization. I will answer any questions (and I expect questions because that is how others will learn about who we are being that we are new and expanding to other areas), but when others try to get personal and make negative comments that is where it ends for me. There is a tendency to get defensive, but once you earn the right to wear your letters you won't let anyone that's on the outside looking in to try to make your organization look bad. If you do not want people approaching you in that way, why do it to someone else?
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What do you mean by pledge? No one should be pledging anyone, period. I know you think there is all this underground and heard of plenty of stuff. But, stuff as it is. There is embellishment and exaggerations. Then, there is truths...
Basically, just like you said: by one's actions. Who cares if what someone says if by your actions your sorority is meeting what you think is a critical need?
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I know many members of greek organizations of all types who face this challenge. I also know that there is great opposition from those who don't see the need for the greek system at all. I knew going in that you should expect to have both good and bad days. Most of my experiences have been very pleasant and I have built relationships with members of other orgs who have shared some of the knowledge they have gained over the years. There are some who feel that we should not exist and do not want to offer any type of help (I have been told those words personally), but I have learned that actions speak louder than words. The only thing that I can do is to keep working and focus on what I can do to make my organization better.
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Like a said, you ought not feel insecure about the true mission of your sorority. If you want to be a bonafid organzation with perpetuity, you need to have governance usually by constitution and bylaws. Then you all need a strategic plan, long term and short term goals.
I say all this because many folks want superior organizations. Some say, because they couldn't make one of the D9's of their choice. So they start their own group, then wonder why everyone dislikes them when they show out with line names, numbers, and jackets.
Most of the D9 has stood the test of time by one thing only: Mission and Program. I don't know how long it takes to get the time relevancy, but I know it takes time.
As far as you all, Sigma Beta Xi. I have seen your lovely website. You have a niche unfullfilled. However, you all need structure beyond all the surface crap as line names, numbers and jackets. You are going to need a very strong program. And to get that, you need non profit status and membership enhancement. You will have an uphill battle because, how are your members, who are in college, that are college age having children? It's that bogus moral question? Your retort should not be aimed at us, squarely. It should be mothers need ________________, too. And there are other MOM sororities.
Then, it sounds like your program should be support mothers to be self-sufficient for the utmost in care for children. As a matter of fact, when you say, "Mom's support group"--then you all need to start you own, not just for your Sorority, but everywhere you can gain access to. What is it to be in the SBX Mom's Support Group or "Play Group"?
Do you have that right to do that? Most DEFINITELY!!! I love my Sorority, but we do not have anything like that...