[AKA_Monet]

They have to be able to communicate on all levels. Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages" is a good book to read.

His love language is not one of physicality. It is a need to him, but under certain circumstances. He may have to be loopy, drunk or high to get with it. If you girlfirend wants to deal with that, fine. But, if she does not, then she has to weigh her options and decide what she can tolerate.

He could just be straight jacking her altogther. But one ought not go into a serious relationship with those kind of major insecurities. What if your friend is too freaky and requires a whip and 5 inch heels to make him get off?

The meer fact that she can jump into the shower with him without him pushing her out or locking the doors suggests he does like her. So, the question becomes, can HE fulfill her requirements for sexual appetite? Probably--NOT. Unless he is willing to practice. In that case, Margaret Anand's "Art of Sexual Ecstasy" is a good book to practice reaching the highest of charkras. And the Muirs, "The Art of Conscious Loving" teaches how to love expansively.

She needs to love herself and be confident in her "abilities". Then, her boy doesn't talk, period, men don't talk generally. So, trying to rip it out of him. Ain't gonna work. What I have found works with my hard as nails husband is either teasing him for some little thing, then going non sequitur on him... One has to gauge the relationship.

Then, it all becomes a matter of how much chit you really want to deal with. Hey, if you don't wanna deal with it, then don't. Life's short. Have fun.

Folks of GC have accused me of not answering questions: Yes, this is normal for most men.