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Originally Posted by christiangirl

Hmmmm.....I debated on not telling on myself, but I think that this is something that needs to be said.

I was in the school cafe today and saw my friend's friend, who wears her hair "natural". But today, it looked a little rough, like she hadn't combed it at all. And the first thing I thought was, "That's not cute, she looks a little nappy." :eek. As soon as I thought it, I caught myself and tried to figure out why on earth I'd say something like that, even in my head. And I came up with.....nothing. I honestly can't think of a single reason why I thought that other than it's engrained in me to feel negatively toward that word. While her hair was "nappy," that wasn't really the problem--the style itself looked bad. It was very unkempt (if that's a word) as thought she'd just rolled out of bed. But why I chose the word "nappy" to sufficiently describe an ugly hairstyle, I don't know. I honestly don't know. Whether that tendency came from society, culture, family, etc., it's so psychologically engrained that I can't even put my finger on it. And the things that we do without even thinking about it are the habits that are hardest to change.

Thanks for sharing this.