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Originally Posted by kddani
I disagree- it is absolutely tacky. A lot of people consider that fishing for gifts. Receiving an invitation to something you can't attend makes most people feel that they have to at least send a gift. If you know someone can't attend, then send them an annoucement or picture or something after the fact. Don't send them an invite to something you already know they can't attend.
Fishing for gifts is always tacky.
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Not necessarily - we sent invitations to some relatives (older aunts and uncles, etc.) who we knew couldn't travel the distance, kind of a way of letting them know we didn't forget about them. I don't think you can automatically assume that people are "fishing for gifts" in that case; you may run into more trouble if some family members don't get invitations, even if you know they probably won't be able to make it. For them, an announcement, etc., just won't cut it.
Anyone who is planning a wedding should just look at their own family and friends and figure out what works best; for some families, it may just look like "fishing," and in some families, you would get more grief for not sending the invitation. Like everything else, people should just do what's best for their situation, not what they saw in some magazine or on a message board.