Should they be involved?
 

Okay, this has been bugging me since thursday....

Last thursday I was standing in line for the Records office to finish up adding some extra classes. Well, one of the rushees, "O" for my boyfriends fraternity was waiting in line also, I gave him a hug and made small chit chat and he left. I was the 3rd person in line when someone came up behind me and wrapped their arms around me, I looked back and seen it was just "O". A bunch of his buddies were there ( I did not know who they were) and "O" became a big ole jerk! When I faced him, he picked me up off the ground (he's 6'7, I'm 5'5) holding me with his left hand and then he grabbed my butt with his right!! :eek: :eek: I mean, he did the kind of butt grab that only your S.O is allowed to do!! I made him put me down and then he put me in a head lock and picked me up off the ground and asked me, "So, have you ever been hurt before?" After what felt like a couple of minutes he let me down, I rolled my eyes at him and finally was able to put in my classes. (He was gabbing to his other dumbazz buddy)

I left the records office and went to my boyfriends apartment, well, he wasn't there so I gave him fraternity bro a message to call me. Well, Dusty calls me and I tell him what happened. (which he was not happy about..) Last night (saturday), the Hegamon (Pledge Master) came over to hang out, Dusty had me tell him what happened.

The lighter part of this is that "O" will not recieve an invite, bid, and if he shows up to open he'll be kicked out.

But here's the bad part, Dusty is extremely pissed off about this, and so are his bros. Thankfully "O" didn't stay in the dorms over the weekend otherwise about 10 of the guys were going to pay him a visit.

Dusty really wants to get into a fight about this and quite frankly it scares me, I feel guilty that I told him and now him and his bro's have the chance of getting into trouble over this.

I'm confused about this, I mean, one part of me is happy that I have a guy that will go to bat for me, but then a larger part of me is wishing i never told him because now he risks getting into trouble and add onto this his bros can get into trouble.

Any thoughts?? *sigh*

--Get this, "O" also as a 4 month long girlfriend and did the same butt-grab deal to another Rushees girlfriend!

Random thoughts on this .. . .

Well he is not exactly going to bat for you lol . . you are not in any immediate danger are you?

ITs awful high schoolish for him and his buddies to go after this kid . . . What part of the country are you from again?

I am assuming that Dusty thinks he can take this kid easily, a frosh i suppose, or else he would not be so keen to challenge him. But in that case whats the point?

OH, you really didn't do anything wrong, so if you BF is silly enough to put himself in harm's way over this . . well thats on him.

But ultimately, he should let it go.

Chances are nothing will come of it unless the kid shows up to parties in the near future.

"O" sounds like a jerk! Are you alright? :(

Sit down with your boyfriend right away and explicitly tell him that he *will not* deal with "O" in a physical manner. His brothers will follow his lead since he is, for want of a better term, the injured party.

He might secretly think that, despite what you've told him, you want him to beat the poop out of "O" so make sure he knows that just the opposite is true.

What James said!

I'm just over drama in general. I'd say just stay away from the guy.

You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You did the right thing by telling your boyfriend what happened. You did his fraternity a huge favor by showing them "O" what a sleaze he is. It's enough that he will not be receiving a bid from your boyfriend's fraternity.

I agree with everyone else. that fighting never solves anything and could lead to assault charges if the police get involved. Instead your boyfriend could call around to the other fraternities and let them know about "O"'s behavior just in case "O" decides to rush somewhere else.

Yep, he doesn't seem worth your bf getting into any trouble over. The guy's an immature jerk and not getting a bid from TKE (and maybe other houses if they hear what he did??) is enough punishment.

Kudos to you for not hitting the guy cuz I would have..........:)

James, "O" is around 6'7-6'8 and a good 300 lbs, Dusty is 5'8,195 lbs. But he's an actual experienced fighter unlike "O", so now you have some background info. Oh, we're from southeastern Ohio...so fighting for your woman is encouraged :p

Thanks everyone for the replies. I talked to some of the guys, and they're still pissed off about it and basically the deal is now that if he doesn't apologize to me is when he'll get the shiznit beat outta him.

Ohio!!! That explains so much . . IT always make sense when posters say they are from there . . . You ohio people :p

Is Ohio considered in the mid west?

As far as I've ever known we've been considered the Mid-West :)

I wouldn't look for the kid, but if he is dumb enough to come to rush anyway then he should he have the ever living isht beat out of him on the spot

Sounds like middle school drama to me.

They should just forget about it and leave the kid alone.

You should also break up with your boy friend for being immature enough to be that way . .. Its a serious character flaw that can have dire consequences later.

Ha - James, I don't know if you're meaning to be funny or serious, but that struck me as really funny. :)

Then you think about it for a second, and it's true... Violent tendencies are pretty scary.

James-- Nah, I don't think I'll get rid of him :p With D, if you mess with his friends, family, or his girlfriend, your'e screwed, heh. But hey, this is the same guy that threated a man who was harassing me on the phone (just last week), and guess what, the man has never called back. So..yeah..I'm keeping him.



----Well, things had cooled down until some more of the guys found out-- Can't help it, I'm loved *shrugs* For "O's" sake I hope he just apologizes and that ends it.

sororitygirl--He's not some kid, he's older than I am and twice as big as my own boyfriend ;) He's a big kid with some serious respect issues towards women.

That guy sounds like a real creep. I suggest that you stay away from him and encourage your boyfriend and his friends to do the same. I am picturing a comical encounter between giant O and your boyfriend. O puts his hand on your bf's head while your bf continuously tries to punch him but can't make contact. Anyway it seems funny to me. :p