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Que Love???????????????????????????????
Why is it that Deltas are made to feel obligated to show the bruhs love? My personal version of love is not the same as there's meaning I don't see the need to be felt up, licked, gnawed on etc. Please educate?
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I have always wondered the same thing Quest. Last I checked, I pledged DST not Q Psi Phi.
So why should I get all hyped when I see a Que? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif And why does he feel that he has the right to feel me up?! Because of that "Coleman Luv"? I just don't understand. [This message has been edited by Melody13_1913 (edited June 01, 2001).] |
I decided to send these questions straight to the source. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
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Please keep in mind that the bruhs are men first and they all have different personalities. I think its unfair to generalize the bruhs and say they all feel Sorors up, because this is not the case. Most bruhs that I have come into contact with have done nothing but treat me with respect and treat me like a sis. If I said it once i said it twice, the history between the bruhs and sorors is a rich one and if you don't understand it: 1) One you're not a soror or a bruh or 2)something went wrong in the learning process. I have nothin g but love for all my sorors and bruhs.
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and I have nothing but love for them. But I guess everyone is entititled to their own opinion and thats my $.13 cents OOOOOOOP-ROOOOOOO ------------------ 29 Jewels of N.V. # 1 Delta Delta Chapter |
One thing that has been stressed over and over and over again in this forum is that the Bond may not exist for all people.
--Some sorors have had bad enough experiences that they don't hold Omega Psi Phi and its members in high esteem at all. --Some sorors are so dead set on blocking out the HISTORICAL Omega-Delta relationship, that they refuse to acknowledge the Bond because there is no official, constitutional relationship between the orgs. --Some sorors haven't seen a bruh on their campus in so long (if at all), that they probably wouldn't know what to do or how to act if they did! --Likewise, some bruhs may have been shunned, dissed, and put down by sorors (namely those I've previously described) so much that they no longer care to uphold the Bond, and would rather gravitate towards AKAs or Q-Pearls. Quest and Melody, I am sorry that your experiences have been negative ones, but I urge you to not judge the whole by the few. I too have been groped, licked, and even bitten, but those kinds of experiences are SO RARE for me, that I refuse to be anything less than excited when I see/meet an OMEGA MAN who does NOT disrespect the Black Woman, and especially not a DiSTinguished Delta Woman. He is the Omega Man who would quickly apologize for the actions of his fellow Dawg in a most sincere and gentlemanly fashion. He is the Omega Man to whom I will ALWAYS show and give COLEMAN LOVE because he is the one who deserves it. Sometimes bruhs might want to use the Bond for the wrong reasons, but shamefully I admit that I am guilty of that, too. 'Cuz let me tell ya-- if I get anywhere close to Shaquille O'Neal, I will milk the Coleman Love thing dry just to get a hug from him! It has its advantages! But on a serious note-- you don't have to do a cartwheel when you see a Brother of Omega Psi Phi. You aren't obligated to feel the Bond or give the love. But, try to keep an open mind if you can, and "judge not lest ye be judged." Some of our sorors aren't the friendliest most respectful at times, and while they may not be feeling the bruhs up, if they're turning their noses up to ANYONE, or "belittling" an entire org because of a few bad grapes, they are just as guilty because they aren't living up to our virtues and Christian principles as Delta Women. And I'm Out. the411 P.S. OOP-ROO! ------------------ Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Pi Kappa, SP97 #3 of QUINTESSENCE [This message has been edited by the411 (edited June 04, 2001).] |
T is doing well, with the exception of some memory loss, he is pretty much back to his old self. Who are ya bruh?
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Much Coleman Luv! To experience it is to luv it! |
I'm new to this room so excuse me if I re emphasize any previous points made. First of all I ask you not judge all the bruhz, based on the actions of a few. True Que-Delta Love doesn't give the right to disrespect you as a woman. So be mindful, that these are men first, and no matter what organization, be it QUE, kappa, alfa, whatever, he would probably treat you similar.
My advice is to simply avoid the people you dont wish to be around. Secondly, to whomever asked why get hype with the bruhz.............that's mighty CAT. I dont know who taught you, but there has been some serious miscommunication. While not true everywhere, Ques and Deltas share a special bond, love, and friendship unlike any other. Damn the constitutional stuff, the first fam, whuteva, I guarrantee you, they wont protect them the way we will protect you. When Atomic Dawg comes on, you should be right there settin it out. Que-DST love may not be always perfect, but when its real its damn near close. Bottom line, BE OUT WITH DA QUES. Dont be CAT. |
UndertaQUEr - Da Steppin' QUE
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Good to see you here Dawg, from the Helta Skelta chapter. How is your chapter bruh that had the accident?. Please post often DoggyStyle The Dirty Deuce |
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You too, Soror?!?!?!? ------------------ Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Pi Kappa, SP97 #3 of QUINTESSENCE |
I am not judging the whole. I have met some very nice and loving bruhs that have treated me like a queen, HOWEVER, I have also had some very negative experiences(more negative than positive). I am not knocking anyone for their opinion but this one belongs to me and if you don't like it that would be too bad for you. I am a proud soror and have been for a few years and there is only so much I am going to tolerate from someone who has no respect for me or my body. Just because Delta's as you say hold the bruh's in such high esteem does not mean that we all have to and that is my $1,913.00 worth.
oh yeah, and last I checked I pledged Delta not Omega Psi Phi. I was never known as a lamp!!!!! So your right I am not a bruh and my process was fine. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif [This message has been edited by Quest (edited June 05, 2001).] |
Quest, do you choose to remain anonymous? We all pretty much know who's who on GC and welcome you esp. to our [ Delta ] forum. Please identify yourself.
------------------ "Director" #2 LaMarque Alumnae Chapter Spr 99 |
Soror, Director I was going to ask the same thing. Quest I would like to email you. You can find my email address in my profile.
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Quest, I'm sorry your experience has not been a good one. But I have come across some bruhs that are wild, but I don't think it has anything to do with being a Que, that is who they are as a person. I can truly say my experience has been a positive one. I know the bruhs are "out" and so am I and my chapter sorors so it doesn't bother me that they get a little crazy. Its just "knowing how to be out". I have nothing but love for the bruhs and respect. I believe in the true bond between our organizations, because it does exist. again I invite you to email me, I love to talk to you in more depth about this.
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6DZ95 "18 Catacombs of Greatness" [This message has been edited by Reds6 (edited June 06, 2001).] |
FOR WHAT? What are you getting at? Trust me I am a DELTA and you don't have to look me up? I wouldn't be putting this out there if it didn't happen to me personally. What?, you need to know who I am so you can try and Judge me like reds6 and Tanzanite who seem to think that I hate the bruhs which I do not, just the abuse. Feel free to email me at kpitreal5@hotmail.com. This applies to all! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif
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Lets remember Protocol. I don't think anyone was questioning whether you were or were not a Soror. I think Soror Director was trying to invite you to our private forum. And I never said I thought you hated the bruhs, read my last post.
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REDS6 and other good Sorors. It is obvious that QUEST has some issues and frustrations that make her so touchy. If as she states, she has as many good experiences with the Bruhs as negative ones, then why the multiple posts that focus on the negative, even to the point of getting snippy with you? In the words of Keith Sweat, "sumthin', sumthin', sumthin', jus' aint right"
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Reds6,
That's just it, YOUR view comes from YOUR experiences whereas Quest's view comes from hers. I don't think it's fair for you to say that if sorors don't "understand" the bond then they're not sorors. It has very little to do with understanding, but more to do with PREFERENCE. I understand the bond. I respect the bond. And I had a wonderful and educational process. And I'll admit that I'm still learning. Like Quest, I don't have a problem with ALL Ques. I've just had enough unpleasant experiences with SOME Ques. Quote:
I have no problem chillin' or "gettin' hype with" those bruhs who have treated me with respect. But I will not jump up and down and get hyped up (like I have seen some sorors do) just because a bruh is in my presence. The kind of person I am, I'll smile, go over to the bruh and give him some love. |
I sent you an email
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It's one thing to share your opinion based on your experiences. It's another thing to criticize others for their opinions. Personally, I felt that the initial posts by Melody and Quest were some what critical of those of us who love the bruhs. But, I could be wrong. If I am, "Pardon moi."
Sorry to say, but I do get hyped when the bruhs come around because I feed off their energy and OUTness. I'm a not a Que-groupie or anything like that--I just love to see the bruhs in action. As Sorors, we have to be respectful of each other, even if we disagree on something. On that note, let me just say this: We ain't madatcha for not feeling the way we do about the Bond. Don't be mad at (i.e. critical of) us for getting hyped when the bruhs come around. And I'm Out! the411 ------------------ Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Pi Kappa, SP97 #3 of QUINTESSENCE |
Soror Moderator,
I agree...we should be respectful of each other. If I seemed critical, that was not my intent. Pardon me. It was more of me wondering why some sorors feel that I should react the way they do when bruhs come around. Now you may say that I should address those particular sorors...and I have. I just wanted to see how other sorors felt. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing wrong with bein' OWT wit' the bruhs if that floats your boat. But we DO have those sorors and sisterfriends who seem like, as you said, "Que-groupies". http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif My last comment is: To each his/her own. I got nuttin' but love for those who treat me as I treat them...with respect. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif Quote:
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i am too! |
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ace_que98,
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What in the Ham Sandwich is going on? Read the original post? What anger? WHAT BRUH HATING? I wasn't angry until you ( bruhs and sorors alike) appeared to be judging me for my opinion. I am not judging the whole.
"I have met some very nice and loving bruhs that have treated me like a queen, HOWEVER, I have also had some very negative experiences(more NEGATIVE than positive). " Quote:
Please do not take it personal. I have met some ques who have showed love with a hug and a kiss and everything was fine. Not a but bite. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif [This message has been edited by Quest (edited June 06, 2001).] |
Before I get started, is it just me, or is anyone else really feeling that new song by Eric Sermon with Marvin Gaye "Just Like Music"?
Melody and Quest, I feel you on the biting amd licking, etc that some bruhz do, especially if ya'll aren't cool like that. I've had my run in's with Delta's too, like when I goto hug, they reach their hand for a handshake, charging bruhz for parties, etc. Thats happened a few times. I've also had them look at the bruhz funny when we ask them to come to the frat house after a party. However, Ive been out of state and I ve seen the sorors get as hype as bruhz when the dawg comes over the speakers. Ive seen the sorors hang tight before the party, after the party, during the party, etc. Im not gonna do cartwheels b/c you are a delta, but I will greet you and give you mad love when I meet you. Now if you prove to be unfriendly..then oh well. So I guess Melody and Quest we agree. Take the sorry bruhz and sorors and charge it to tha game, kick it with the cool ones, and be OUT. RED6, me and you would get along very well b/c settin tha hops out is a very big passion of mine, I take personal pride and percision when i do. I like that acrobatic, up in the air, grit on your face hoppin. You could call it an obsession if you will. Out, aceque98 |
Like I mentioned in a previous post, it's an individual thing regarding the bond one has with a member of Omega Psi Phi and any other organization.
Here are some true to life examples: One Omega that I met in a social gathering (picnic) said to me "If you are a real Delta then you would eat that piece of bread that is on the ground." Needless to say, Sorors had to hold me back. Another Omega I met at a major ceremony back in February, where there were alot of distinguished political officials present, embraced me like I was his "sister" and we chat all the time and have become very good friends. I met another Omega at a dinner party I was giving 2 years...we ended up being neighbors and we talk at least 4 times a week. And I've met Omegas who walk past me everyday and hold their heads down when they pass me. But guess what? I'm not worried because I treat people as people first not because of the letters they wear. I feel that if a member of Omega Psi Phi If I don't get along with a member of any organization, more than likely I wouldn't get along with them if they weren't in the organization....so it's an individual thing. It also depends on the setting and circumstances in which you meet. There are alot of factors to be considered. I like you for WHO you ARE not WHAT you ARE. And if we all applied this principle to our everyday lives, we would be alot better off. ------------------ "Director" #2 LaMarque Alumnae Chapter Spr 99 |
Thank You Soror, Thats exactly what I'm saying. A person is not an ass because of the organization they belong to, but because they have always been an ass.
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Melody, reread my post. I did not say that if sorors don't understand the bond, than they are not sorors. I would never disrespect any soror or question their process in a public forum. Obviously, with any organization members are made differently.
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What's up bruhs and sorors? This is the Ace Dog FA 94 from Bowie State. Haven't been here in a minute so much love to all. To comment on the topic, I must say that since I can remember the bruhs and sorors have always kicked it;always have/always will!!!! But let's remember that they are men/women first before they are Ques or Deltas so that means there is going to be some folks who still act like a GDI. I can say I have never dissed a member of DST(or any sorrority members)just because I'm a bruh. My lil sister just crossed DST at the University of Deleware and my ties are even greater with DST becasue of it. My momma-n-law is DST and a Minister so she would put me in the hole if I ever attempted to dis DST.
If you are ever in the 2nd District come to Bowie State and the bruhs will be setting it out for all the bruhs as well as the sorors!!!! ------------------ |
What's up number? This is the Ace Dog FA 94(Bowie State)I feel you on the hopping and all. I have to agree with the way the topic has been flowing; however I think everyone is putting too much emphasis on the fact that bruhs do what they do because they;re bruhs. Those same bruhs who are gnawing on the sorors would probably be doing the same if they were a member of another frat; the again they probably wouldn't because we are unique in all that we do. I can say in my day I've gnawed on a female or two but it was welcomed and when they got tired of it I had enough sense to STOP. Most bruhs take it to another level though; making it seem like we all are bad dawgs with no training. Sorors that just isn't so!!!! Like I've said before; come to Bowie State and see for yourself. I can also say that those individuals who are bothered by the act itself should do all they can to avoid these situations because as long as you're Greek this may happen!!!! You heard the rumors so you knew what to expct when you joined. Stop being so sensitive and enjoy Omega/DST love to the fullest!!!! And I'm gone alright alright!!!!
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I forgot to reply to your original question. I'm feeling that song also. It's playing on the radio as we speak. Hey Dawg, set out a hop!!!! Quote:
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oo-oop to the coleman family! let me preface my comments by saying that the vast majority of experience i have had with the bruhs have been great. and i expect love when i meet them. i would agree with most of what you said except fot the part about bruhs who bite would do that if they were members of other orgs. in many cases, not just the bruhs, people who had less extroverted personalities become really out and hype. and in many ways try to live up to the reputation of the organization. i have seen many AKA's with very short hair almost break their necks trying to sling hair that they don't have. quiet girls who become soror start acting like real divas and so on. so, i suppose the point i'm making is that sometimes people act how they think they are supposed to act now that they are greek like bruhs biting or licking women. i know of bruhs who would never have done that in there former lives, but will do it know cause they think it's expected.
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DSTBRAT: you are so right about people changing after they pledge and trying to live up to the stereotype. For many Bruhs, being "out" often means being disorderly. My old roommate used to be a shy, humble Kentucky farmboy. As soon as he became a Kappa, he thought his farts were air freshener.
ESIGMAQUE: welcome back Dawg. Glad your boys had a new line. My neo crossed with them in the spring. |
Thanks Dawg! You know when there is a new litter of pups and they be trying to get into everything? That's our Neos! Dawg; them boys is out!!!! I second what you and DSTBRAT are talking about how people are normal and when they cross they act like they assume they should be acting. With me I call a spade a spade and if I ever come across a bruh that I knew before and then I see him afterwards and he's acting out of character; I let him know. There are so many imposters out here that it's crazy. Anyone reading this; just be yourself and realize that no matter how you were made(or wasn't) folks are either going to accept you or they're not so you don't have to put on a front. Good to see the Ol' Bruh still hangin' in there. Keep up the good work!!!! and I'm gone.......alright alright.
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Hey ladies I'm not trippin' but the majority of the times you sorors don't even talk to each other. I get around. See the way I look at is like this. The bruhz are real, we are not all the time trying to sniff or lick on your boodie we just like to feel comfortable and kick it. Most sorors hang out with the Sweet alphas, kappas, etc.. and feel comfortable because the majority of the time you girls don't feel a threat because they are putting on a front and most young people between 26-19 put on those fronts and think that is hyped. The Ques keep it real. And continue to be real. Some bruhz be hyped to see sorors and some don't because I'm not pointing fingers, but you all made it that way. I love the Soror's. Just like I told a soror 5 years ago. She had just crossed, I saw her walking down the street and I said what's up and she said nothing. So me being who I am walked over and asked her what was up with that? She said she didn't like the Ques. I said to her, "You don't have to like the Ques, but we have a little bond that means alot and if I was walking like I am now and a doode was trying to rob you-you would scream hay bruh help. Now I could let that doode bust your head cause you don't like the Ques or I could whoop doode out because you are black first of all and a soror of mine. She understood, and today we are very good friends and bruh and soror. So ladies we know you love your DST. Just give us a chance.
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I have been reading these posts and just wanted to send some love to my sorors and to the bruhs. I really think that every Delta's experience with Omega men depends on that particular bruh. I've experienced both positive and negative relationships with some bruhs or have even plain disliked some BUT I love the bruhs and a few jerks aren't making me dislike Omega Psi Phi or EVERY member. Every bruh is different just like every soror is different. Coleman Luv is definitely alive and well in my life, but that's just me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif
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